Father's Day is everyday
Everybody around the World respects and understands the importance of a mother in one's life. What about a father??? The answer lies in the numbers. 99% of the child custody goes to the mother.
It is not surprising to know that soon after the marriage men take the back seat in all the family matters. A woman holds all the authority in the house. Wonder why these good-for-nothing people are propagating that women's status is lower than men.
When a wo
man gets pregnant, her husband may have been strong enough to respect his freedom, but when he becomes a father, all his wishes, desires, self-respect becomes subordinate. And the child has no idea about it. The child only sees that his/her mother is the head of the family and his/her father is a walking, talking bank account.The child grows up in an environment where he/she sees that the father does whatever the mother says. The child shares all his/her emotions, secrets, and all about the day with his/her mother, but when it comes to the father, the child only knows that when he/she needs money, demand from the father. And if the father refuses, complain to the mother about the father. The mother, trying to let everybody know that she is the head of the family, will authoritatively demand money from the father. The father gives in, always.
The child understands from childhood observation that his/her mother scolding his/her father is normal and father scolding mother is abnormal. The child also gets all the training from
his/her mother that his/her mother will be always right, and that statement makes his/her father always wrong.In almost every house, the father is one who goes to office without saying a word, and comes home in the evening and sits next to the mother pretending to watch television. The child will have no idea what is going on in the mind of his/her father. And in every man's life, they, one day or the other, realizes that the man who used to provide him with money, comforts and freedom was none other than his father; father who took care of his son by giving up his self-respect only to maintain harmony and peace in the house so that the child grows up in a peaceful environment. But it's too late to do anything because by the time a man realizes about his father's infinite generosity, he is already married with a child and then he begins to walk on the footstep of his father.
Mother has the liberty to express her views, feelings, emotions and worries to her child. But a father, father will never express his emotions and worries to his child. He will silently swallow his loneliness, his emotional predicaments. Whatever professional pressure he might be carrying on his shoulder, he can't express it. He may have career tension, physical ailment, personal problems, but he is not allowed to share it with his child.
From the starting years of a male child, he meticulously observes that his father's job is only to earn money for the family and his mother's job is to keep everybody happy – by making others follow her terms. Daughters, on the other hand, feel elated watching her mother exercising her authority and wish to marry a henpecked husband just like her father. Sometimes the mother will lead the child against the father to settle scores. There was this incident where a daughter, on the instruction of her mother, filed a false rape case against her father.
This is where the patriarchic ideology gets distorted. Although a man could be the bread-winner of the house but what if the bread-winner does what his wife says. And that is what happens in every house. But still, some people especially the women groups criticize the patriarchic ideology, an ideology that gave women the status of women. Is this criticism of women groups targeting the patriarchic ideology or male-gender?
Only when a man becomes a father himself and lives with the same authoritative mother of his child, will he realize that his father was the greatest human being. He remembers those days when he was only seeing his mother's affection and couldn't feel his father's pain. Instantly, he realizes that the labour pain his mother endured for few days was nothing compared to the pain his father has endured only to maintain peace and harmony in the house by living on his wife's terms.
Losing one's self-respect, freedom and living on the terms of one's wife only to make a peaceful environment for the child to grow is the greatest sacrifice. A mother can be important in one's life, but she can never become a father. She can never teach a child what a father can
. At first, a father is a mere bank account, then he becomes the enemy of your habits and your mother, then he becomes sick when you are enjoying with your friends, he retires while you enjoy with your wife, and then he becomes your friend when he is ready to make a will, and then ends up being your role-model, your mentor. By the time your father passes away, you say, "I want to be like my father."
Who says we need to celebrate a Father's Day? Everyday is a Father's Day.
My Daddy greatest. by: saraswati
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