i cant agree with Bhaskar. he is blaming his parents for this. how a man can do this ?
is he under 10 year old ? is he dont have living experience ?
On Thu, Feb 14, 2008 at 8:27 PM, Suresh M <sureshem@hotmail.com > wrote:
I go with you Bhaskar,
Generally, Malayali knows his rights too much..but not responsibilities. He is too aware of his rights that he forgets that others have an equal right as his!!
I read someone writing that 'thanking' someone is a western culture!!! why do we have the word 'nandi, upakaaram' in malayalam, 'shukriya' in hindi/urdu? Is that to be used only in formal talks and letters? for eg., whats wrong in thanking a waiter at a hotel? Respect is always a "Give and Take" affair. We should teach our kids to respect elders and also to thank and wish whereever necessary.
Suresh
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From: k_bhaskar123@rediffmail. com
Date: Thu, 14 Feb 2008 07:10:25 +0000
Subject: Re: [Keralites] Malayalees open mouth for 2 things - reply>I am not criticized you or anybody or any culture. There is nothing wrong in saying a “Thank you†.
I tend to agree to the view that a Malayali is, by and large, arrogant. He thinks that he has the answer to all the problems in the world. If Tamil Nadu has a problem, there is bandh - sorry, HARTAL - in Kerala. Shiva Sena was formed in Maharashtra to fight the south Indians and to kick them out of Mumbai. But we have a Shiv Sena in Kerala!!
We also tend to think that anything that we get is our right!! So why should I thank anybody? We normally take things for granted and the word "THANKS" rarely comes from our mouth. The fault is that of the parents. We should teach our children to thank for the help they get from ANYONE - even somebody we have paid for (For example waiters at the restaurants, lift boys etc.). Only then this will come as a habit. In the meantime, my suggestion to all my co-malayalis is
1) Let us start saying "THANKS" when ever we get an opportunity
2) Let us teach our children to do so and
3) Let us do the good, whether or not any one says "THANKS"
Thanks for reading.
On Tue, 12 Feb 2008 manoj mattew wrote :
>Nikhil
>>My mother, father and wife, they did lot of things to me. I never said a “thanks†to them at any single incident.
>What I said; we should not expect such a behavior from people, those who are living in different custom.> I do agree with you in some extend. â€Å"One is to criticize, next is to eat some thingâ€Â
>May be a 1000 time, I said thanks to my managers for simple things.
>One of them left the company three months back; he left from my memory also.
>Even though my parents are in India, I got 1000 chances to remember them daily.
>Some times silence and smile works more than words and actions.
>Regards
>
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>Manoj Mathew
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>If saying "Thank you " is not our coulture i think i made a mistake by critisising the culture .......
>
>But in Our culture what way we should espress our thankfullness and gratitude .....
>
>Give some one a sarcastic smile?
>
>I do not think so ..... evry thing should be thanked ... if the "Thank YOU " Is makeing u feel , u are imitating americans
>
>Leave it .......... Use "Nmaskaram and Nandiyundu" ......
>
>atleast show an attitude of thanks ....... instead showing an atitude its ur prevelage?
>
>which is better ?????
>
>OR say "Thank GOD" .... the person who helped will be happy to hear it
>
>regards ,
>Nikhil
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>manoj mattew <manoj@carlogavazziarabia.com > wrote:
> Hi Nikhil
> However, regarding â€Å"Thank you†, I do not understand why we are expecting ‘thanks’, when we are doing something voluntary. It is a western culture to say ‘thanks’ and ‘sorry’ to all things. Western people are very much clever to advertise their customs and products to the world and force other to follow it. We can follow the good part of it. But as you know, we have a great culture and customs, which exists from a long time back. When the westerners dominated the world, they try to implement their systems and made us believe, it is the best. Now that time has gone. We, Asians are going to dominate the world. Let us proud of our customs and culture. It is not a common practice in Kerala, to say â€Å"Thanks†or â€Å"sorry†for every thing as Europeans. Every place got its own customs and culture. I feel that, it is better to keep silent than saying an untruthful ‘Thanks’ or ‘sorry’.
> We keralites, when we were in a foreign country, think ourselves as high-class people. We feel all our system and people in our native place is substandard. Because of some luck, many of us achieved good position and money. Here we got chances to mingling with European or American people and we think you are one among them. I have seen here, all the nationalities are speaking their own language in casual talks, even some times in business meetings. But when we two Indians, especially malayalies meet each other, we starts speak in English. Dear all, time has gone, now it is the time to show what you have. As you said, we always open our mouth to criticize our politics, system and people. With accepting its negatives, because of our politics, systems and culture, we achieved all this today’s developments. When we fired missiles, many people asked, why we are wasting money instead of handling starvation. You can see what the situation of gulf countries is, having lot money, but still waiting for America’s mercy for their security.
> If we are proud to be a keralites, you should also be proud on our culture and customs.
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> Subject: [Keralites] malayalees open mouth for 2 things
> I am saying this , eventhough i am a proud malayalee ...
> But its my duty to say it .....
> There is a genaral feeling malayalees open their mouth only for 2 things ...
> One is to critisise , next is to eat some thing .
> There is nothing called appreciation in their mouth .
> But there are malayalees who have changed after being out of kerala , but still the number is very less who changed .
> I have been out of kerala for long years and am back in kerala , soon will be out of it .
> But kerala is the only place we expect the least to get a "thank u " .
> If there is a bus strike , u can see lot of ppl showing their hand to get a lift .....
> take them drop them .... but if u expect a "thank u " u will be disappointed ...
> So never wait to listen it .... just leave the place soon as if he said and u did not hear it ....
> But do not cease to give the help ..... think he is a kid .... he will grow
> U light a cigarat , and u lit some one waiting next to u with a cig ....... u will defenatly feel u are the waiter who is supposed to light it ... hey common only in kerala i have seen a waiter is not thanked for lightng a cig ....
> Just few examples ......
> what make us so rude ?????
> Feeling of educated ? may be getting civilised is better than getting educated
> Feeling of only rights? hahahahahaha ....... kids knows about rights only ... they do not know about responcibilities .....
> Time to change ... else u will be left alone My brother / Sister
> Have courtesy to appreciate good things , let the good grow with ur help .
> regards ,
> Nikhil
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